A language for sex, lesson #4
Positions, drawings of positions, dreams of positions.
This lesson is all about positions and the meanings associated with them. The basic idea for the name of a position is that it should reflect the body part in contact with the ground. For example, the standing position is sat which means foot and lying on the belly is bo for … belly.
E — to be
Pronounced [ɛ] as in “bell”, this is used to say for me, you be this or that and this implies taking a particular position and mindset. You can also say Ei [ɛi] which means for you, you be this or that and it implies feeling this way, not changing the shape of the body. So E is change your body and mind and Ei is change your mind only.
A position is therefore both a shape that our bodies must take and a mental and emotional attitude. It is important to highlight that taking the body shape always implies taking the mind and heart attitudes as well. There is no physical shape without the proper presence and mindset unless another mindset is applied with Ei in which case we have a body shape and another mindset. For example, you can be lying on your belly (the bo position) and you have to feel the active, genitals breathing and very sexual attitude of the kneeling position with legs wide open (Ei moon om).
E bo e ei moon om
Note: her, the second e means and so this translates to be the belly position and the open bosom attitude.
A note on breathing
In all these positions, the submissive must be aware of his/her own breathing and should adapt the posture so that the breath feels as relaxed and free as possible. This attention helps to ensure that the body is using minimal energy to sustain the position and it helps avoid dissociative states that emerge from the struggle. Position and attitude, not struggle and self hatred. This means that the positions have to be interpreted with our body strengths and limitations.
Now that we have a vague understanding of how the philosophy behind postures, let’s discover some vocabulary. In this list, you will encounter some words that you already know but repeating is good.
Vocabulary
Sat — foot
Pronounced [sæt] as in “satin”. This is the neutral, standing position. The attitude associated with this position is waiting without any expectation. The attitude Ei sat can be used to say do less and relax. This is also a verb, just like ma (hand). So if you remember your previous lesson, Olir sato pal means We will kick your butt with our feet (please make sure consent implies kicking before trying this at home 😅). You can also say more gentle things like Sati bo, caress my belly with your feet.
Fen — knee
Pronounced [fɛn] as in “Ben” but with an “f” this means knee. The position associated with fen is kneeling with both knees on the ground, the butt touching the legs. To kneel like people do in churches, use fenol which is the short hand for fen gol (gol means tall). So the tall kneeling is with the legs making a 90° angle. The fenol position allows access to the genitals where fen usually does not.
We can also add the om (open) adjective in which case the knees are spread apart. So to summarise, here are some variants for the fen position:
- E fen, kneeling, legs together, the butt sitting on the legs (judo sitting position: see picture below).
- E fenol, kneeling, legs together, body tall (church praying position).
- E fen om, same as e fen but with legs open (gives access to genitals).
- E fenol om, same as e fenol but with knees separated (access to genitals from the back).
bo — belly
Pronounced [bo] as in the beginning of “bold”. The position associated with the belly is lying flat on… the belly. This is a very gentle and resting position that can either imply receiving flogging, sodomy or just cuddling and massage. It’s a passive position with an exposed back. The attitude is be ready for anything intense on either scales of brutality or softness.
moon — bosom
Pronounced [muːn] just like “moon”. It means bosom (hafmoon is tits). The position implies having the butt very high with the bosom touching the ground (also for men). Again, om implies opening the legs or knees to give access to genitals or the anus (kepal). The attitude is one of receiving, like a glass or cup. The person kneeling down must visualise his or her genitals and anus as being flowers ready for fertilisation.
Conclusion
In this fourth lesson, you learned how to tell someone to take a position (e) or just the attitude (ei). You learned about the positions sat (standing on the feet), fen (kneeling), bo (resting on the belly) and moon (exposed ass with bosom on the ground). You learned about the adjective gol (meaning “tall”, usually abbreviated ol as in fenol) and about the adjective om which means “open”.
Have fun taking positions and attitudes 🌸 !
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